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Our Goal as Parents
As parents, we want the best for our kids. Though we may stumble at times, we love them fiercely and devote our lives to raising them well. We laugh, cry, soar, and plummet with them as they face life. And we hope that through our efforts and encouragement, they will be equipped to tackle growing up with confidence.
If you are looking for ways to encourage your kids to be confident, start with these ideas.
Teach Them Who They Are
Your children are children of God. When the world tries to bring them down, remind them of their divine potential for greatness and encourage them to rise up to meet it. They can accomplish so much when they recognize who they are.
Watch as President Dieter F. Uchtdorf reminds us why identity matters.
Praise Effort over Outcome
Of course we want our children to succeed. But sometimes they won’t—and that’s OK. In the real world, we don’t always win, get the promotion, or come out on top. But there are great lessons to be learned in the attempt. So praise your children for trying. With your encouragement, they can be content and confident in their effort.
Let Them Do Hard Things
As parents, our natural inclination is to remove obstacles, eliminate pain, and just make things easy for our kids. But our kids grow strong and confident in their own strengths and abilities when they are stretched. So step back and let them go. Whether they face involuntary challenges or seek out difficult tasks on their own, encourage them with love and remind them that they can do hard things.
Watch as one young girl gains confidence in her own abilities as she faces a difficult challenge.
Honesty really is the best policy when it comes to raising a confident child. False praise for mediocre effort only muddies the waters of confidence. If your child really works hard for something, regardless of success or failure, encourage them to keep up the good work. If, however, they expect great results with little or no effort, encourage them with honest feedback. When communicated with love, your honest praise for a job well done will strengthen your child’s confidence.
Encourage Them to Serve Others
Jesus Christ taught, “He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it” (Matthew 10:39). In other words, we should teach our kids to lose themselves in the service of others. As they do, they will gain confidence in who they are and what they can accomplish, not only for themselves, but for those around them.
Watch as these parents and children radiate confidence while serving together in their community.